The twelfth.
In seeking to reduce others to good, let it appeare that you seek rather to be helpfull to them▪ then to get victory over them.
IT is grievous to a mans nature to be conquered, but not to be helped.* 1.1 Ambrose writing to his friend Marcellus about com∣posing some breaches between him and his brother and sister, hath amongst other this excellent expression, I thought that to be the best way, I would have none to be conquered, and all to o∣vercome. The like practice is reported of Scipio, when at the taking of New Carthage two Souldiers contended about the Murall Crowne,* 1.2 due to him who first climbed the walls, so that the whole Army was thereupon in danger of division, when he came to Scipio, he decides the matter thus: He told them they both got up the wall together, and so gave the scaling Crowne to both.