[ 10] §. IIII. Their manifold rites in Salutations, Entertaynments, and other Ciuilitie: to the King and Magistates: Of Buryals and Marriages, Birth∣dayes; their Men, Women, Names and Games, Habites.
COurtesie or Ciuilitie, is reckoned one of their fiue Cardinall vertues,* 1.1 much commeded in their Bookes. (Their common Rites yee haue had largely in Pantoia.) When greater re∣spect is vsed, as after long absence, or on a Solemne day, after the common bowing, [ 20] both fall on their knees with the forehead to the ground, and then rise and downe a∣gaine in like sort three or foure times. When they doe this reuerence to a Superiour, hee stands at the head of the Hall, or sits, and at all those prostations ioyning his hands, bowes a little and sometime for greater modestie hee goeth to the side of the Hall, whose head is Northwards as the doore is Southwards. The same rites they performe to their Idols; and sometimes as the Seruants to their Master, or the meanest of the people to honourable persons,* 1.2 which is presently to kneele and knock the ground thrice with their forehead: they stand at his side when their Ma∣ster speakes, and kneele at euery answer. When one speakes to another, they vse not the second person, nor the first person when they mention themselues, except to their inferiour,* 1.3 and haue as many formes of depressing themselues, as of exalting others, the lowliest of which is to call a [ 30] mans selfe by his proper name, in stead of (I.) When they speake any thing of another mans, they vse a more honourable forme; Of their owne, or theirs, a more modest: which a man must learne both for manners sake, and to vnderstand their meaning.
The Visitors send their Libels or papers of visitation, so many that the Porter is faine to keepe a note of their names, and where they dwell, lest wee should forget;* 1.4 and if the partie to bee visi∣ted be not at home or at leasure, that libell is left with the Porter for a testimonie. The more honourable the Visitor, the larger hee writes his name. In sending Presents they vse like libel∣ling; setting downe also each gift in a line by it selfe, part of which may bee sent backe without offence, which is done with a like libell of thankes. They often send money or pieces of Gold for presents. They haue Garments proper for visitations. The chiefe place in both Royall Courts, [ 40] is giuen to Strangers, most remote especially, which made vs commonly to bee preferred. The seruant, when they are set, brings as many little Cups of Cia as are Guests. When they part, neere the Hall doore, they reiterate their bowings, then at the Doore, and at the passing out,* 1.5 and after they are in their Chayre or on Horsebacke, againe without doores; and lastly, a Seruant is sent after in his Masters name, to salute them, and they send their seruants like∣wise to resalute.
Their Banquets are not so much commessations as Compotations; for although their Cups be as little as Nut-shels, yet they drinke often.* 1.6 Their Ciuill and Religious affayres are therein han∣dled, besides the demonstration of kindnesse. In eating they haue neither Forkes, nor Spoones, nor Kniues; but vse small smooth stickes, a palme and a halfe long,* 1.7 wherewith they put all meats [ 50] to their mouthes, without touching them with their fingers. They bring all things to the Ta∣ble cut in little pieces, except it bee of softer condition, as Egges, Fish, and such things as their stickes will diuide. They vse to drinke hot, euen in hottest weather, whether their Cia-decocti∣on, or Wine, or Water: which it seemeth is profitable to the Stomacke; for they liue long,* 1.8 and are strong at seuentie or eightie yeeres: Neither is any of them troubled with the Stone,* 1.9 which I suppose is occasioned by our cold drinke. When any is Inuited, a Libell is sent a day or more dayes (if it bee to a solemne Banquet) before, signifying, that the Inuiter hath prepared a Banquet of Hearbs, and hath washed his Cups, that at such a day and houre (which commonly is neare night) hee may heare and learne somewhat of him: At the day they send another like Libell (on [ 60] the out-side of these Libels, there is a red paper added with the more honourable Name of the in∣uited, which the Chinois vse besides their proper name) in the morning to each Guest, and a