comparison of one that prefers a Picture before what it repre∣sents. For what proportion there is between the Picture of a Mistress, and the Mistress her self; the same is found between such Mistress whilst she permits her Servant no privacy, and her self when she is married to him; the Actions of the one being but the shadow and Picture of those of the other, which are dis∣cover'd in their simplicity by fruition. We may say therefore, that the Passion before Enjoyment, is Desire; but Possession alone is capable to produce true Love. Besides, the perfection of each thing compleats it, and places it in its highest point, instead of destroying it; so likewise Enjoyment, which is the perfection of Love, and the sole Butt it aims at, doth not ex∣tinguish it. As one delightful meal may appease present hunger, but with-all it incites us rather to desire another than to disgust it.
The Second said, Did we not converse with things altogether imperfect, Possession would encrease Love, because it would see new perfections in the thing belov'd: But on the contrary, common Experience teaches us the imperfection of what, before Enjoyment, we accounted highly of; and so our Love of it comes to be diminish'd. Besides, difficult things being the fairest, and contrarily brave things, whose acquisition is easie, contemn'd, (witness the Orders of Knight-hood and other Honors, which have been made rare, only that they might be the more amiable) it follows that we less love what we have in our power, than what we have not; Humane weakness being soon weary of every thing, and naturally carry'd to change: But we cannot be weary of things not in our power, and, consequently, we must esteem them more than what we possess, the familiarness whereof, is apt to breed Contempt of it in us: Besides that, the Mind is prone to seek what it wants, and to esteem the con∣dition of another above its own. Thus the Ox would fain gallop like the Horse, who on the other side envies his labour at the Plough; and every one takes more pleasure in speaking of what he least understands, and about the profession of others, than about his own. Yea, Experience shews us, that Lovers re∣linquish both the thing and name of Servants, as soon as they are marry'd. Whence a late Poet speaking of his Mistress, said, He knew no way to moderate the excessive Love he had for her, but by marrying her.
The Third said, That true Love must be distinguish'd from false; this latter decresing by fruition, whereas the former is encreas'd by it; as also we must distinguish of Subjects that are lov'd. Those that deserve not to be so, are like coarse Pictures which require to be beheld at a distance and in a certain station, because neerness discovers their defects; whereas the nearer an excellent and well drawn piece is beheld, the more it is esteem'd. Besides, a difference must be made between what is practis'd and what ought to be practis'd. The defects of the person lo∣ving