A new family-book, or, The true interest of families being directions to parents and children, and to those who are instead of parents : shewing them their several duties, and how they may be happy in one another : together with several prayers for families and children, and graces before and after meat : to which is annexed a discourse about the right way of improving our time / by James Kirkwood ... ; with a preface, by Dr. Horneck.
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A new family-book, or, The true interest of families being directions to parents and children, and to those who are instead of parents : shewing them their several duties, and how they may be happy in one another : together with several prayers for families and children, and graces before and after meat : to which is annexed a discourse about the right way of improving our time / by James Kirkwood ... ; with a preface, by Dr. Horneck.
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Kirkwood, James, 1650?-1709.
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London :: Printed for J. Taylor ..., and J. Everingham ...,
1693.
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Family -- England.
Family -- Religious life.
Parent and child -- Early works to 1800.
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"A new family-book, or, The true interest of families being directions to parents and children, and to those who are instead of parents : shewing them their several duties, and how they may be happy in one another : together with several prayers for families and children, and graces before and after meat : to which is annexed a discourse about the right way of improving our time / by James Kirkwood ... ; with a preface, by Dr. Horneck." In the digital collection Early English Books Online. https://name.umdl.umich.edu/A47513.0001.001. University of Michigan Library Digital Collections. Accessed June 10, 2024.
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Concerning the Duties of Step-Fathers
and Step-Mothers.
The first and chief
thing which belongs to
the care of Step-Parents,* 1.1
is, to do all that they can
for the benefit of their
Childrens Souls. They
ought to endeavour to
season their tender minds with the
Fear and Love of God, to reform what
is amiss in their temper and humour by
all kind and prudent Methods, to teach
them to worship God, to Remember
their Creator in the days of their Youth:
They ought to see that they be taught
to read; that they spend the Lord's
Day well, and that they frequent the
place of Publick Worship: They ought
to make them understand what was
promised in their Name at their Bap∣tism,
and to encourage them to renew
their Baptismal Covenant, if they have
an opportunity: They ought to advise
them to come to the Lord's Table so
soon as they are fit for it, and then,
as also at other times, to examine
themselves, and to call themselves to
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a strict and serious account, They
ought to observe what remarkable
Mercies and Providences they meet
with, and to acquaint them therewith
so soon as they are capable to reflect
on such things: They ought likewise,
to talk to them often of the various
Providences which either they have
met with themselves, or which they
have observed in the World, that
thereby the Childrens minds may be
affected with a due sense of the Power,
the Greatness, the Wisdom, the Mer∣cy,
and the Justice of God.
To render all which endeavours ef∣fectual,
they must be Examples of Piety
to them: They must see what Com∣pany
they use, and do what they can
to keep them out of ill Company, and
to acquaint them with those who have
a sense of good things: They must
reprove them when it is needful, but
with great mildness and discretion:
And as for correcting and chastening
of them, they ought to leave that part
to the Natural Parent, if alive; but if
the Natural Parent be dead, then they
may correct them when it is necessary,
according to their Age: But in this
great caution ought to be used, they
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must do it with the greatest gentleness
and tenderness that is possible, not on∣ly
out of Conscience, but Prudence, to
prevent all occasion, which a great ma∣ny
are apt to take, to reflect upon
them, and to censure them severely
and unjustly, when they do any thing
that looks like unkindness or sharpness
to their Step-Children. 'Tis therefore
very adviseable, when Correction is
necessary, to acquaint some of the
Childrens Relations (if they be not
at too great a distance) with their
fault, and so to correct them by their
advice, and, if possible, in their pre∣sence,
that they may be, as it were,
Witnesses of their doing nothing but
what is absolutely fit and needful to
be done for the advantage of the Chil∣dren.
Step-Parents ought also to take the
opportunity of their Childrens sickness,
or of any other Adversity they meet
with, to set home upon their minds
such Admonitions and Counsels as
they were not so apt to mind when
they were in health. And to all their
other Endeavours, they ought to joyn
their daily prayers to God for them,
that he would bless them, and make
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them his faithful and obedient Children
and Servants.
As Step-Parents ought principally to
take care of the Souls of their Step-Children,
so they must not neglect
their Bodies. Their Duty as to this,
is, in a word, to take care that they
have necessary and convenient Food
and Rayment.
As to the outward Estate of Step-Children,
tho' Parents are not obliged
to give them any great Portion of
their Worldly Goods, especially if
they have, or are like to have Children
of their own, to give such things to;
yet they ought to be careful, that the
Portions, which of right belong to
their Step-Children, be preserved and
improved for their use and advantage,
according to the Will of the Deceased
Parent.
When they are fit for a Trade or
any honest way of getting their Lively∣hood,
they ought to assist them all they
can, that they may be placed forth as
happily and comfortably as may be.
In like manner when they are fit for
Marriage, they ought to express a
great deal of readiness and chearful∣ness
to serve them to the utmost of
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their Power; they ought to assist them
with their best advice and hearty Coun∣sel
in a matter of so great Importance.
And, in a word, they ought not to be
wanting to them in any thing that may
be useful and beneficial to them, either
as to their Souls, or Bodies, or as
to their outward Concerns.
Notes
* 1.1
Concerning the Duties of Step-Fathers and Step-Mothers, or Fathers and Mothers in Law: