A token for mourners, or, The advice of Christ to a distressed mother bewailing the death of her dear and only son wherein the boundaries of sorrow are duly fixed, excesses restrained, the common pleas answered, and divers rules for the support of Gods afflicted ones prescribed
Flavel, John, 1630?-1691.

2. Answer.

Do you not unjustly charge and fault your selves, for that which is not really your fault or neglect? How far you are chargeable in this case will best appear, by comparing the circumstances you are now Page  135 in, with those you were in when your Relation was only arrested by sickness; and it was dubious to you what was your duty and best course to take.

Possibly you had observed so many to perish in Physitians hands, and so many to recover without them, that you judged it safer for your friend, to be without those means, than to be hazarded by them.

Or if diverse methods and courses were prescribed and perswaded to, and you now see your error in preferring that which was most improper, and neglecting what was more safe and probable; yet as long as it did not so appear to your un∣derstanding at that time; but you follow∣ed the best light you had to guide you at that time, it were most unjust to charge the fault upon your selves, for chusing that course that then seemed best to you, whether it were so in it self or not.

To be angry with your selves for do∣ing or omting what was then done, or omitted according to your best discretion and judgment; because you now see it by the light of the event far otherwise than you did before; is to be troubled that you are but men, or that you are not as God, who only can foresee Issues, and Page  136 events; and that you acted as all rational creatures are bound to do, according to the best light they have, at the time and season of action.