goods are come home safely, hee can now beare a hundred times as much as before, and you can scarce anger him, why? because his heart is filled with sweetness. So it is here, let a Christian walke close with God, keepe his peace with him, he will have so much sweetnes in his heart that it is not ea∣sie to put him into any passion of frowardnes, why? he hath enough within, perhaps his friend, his wife, his neighbour is crosse, but his Christ is loving; though there be little comfort in my maryage with one who is so peevish & perverse, yet in my marryage with Christ there is satisfaction enough. But when the heart hath made breaches between Christ and it self, when it hath lost the sweetness in that marryage communion, no marvaile if there be no sweetnes in the other maryage communion.I will give you a notable example of this, a man who before his breach with God was of a sweet disposition, was very milde and loving, but after he was of a perverse, and cruell, & froward disposition. The example is Saul; When he was first chosen King, how humble was he? hee acknowledges himself to be of the least of the tribes of Israel, and the least in his fathers house, and when some raysed npon him and said, shal this man raigne over us? the text saith, he held his peace; and when others would have had them killed, no, by no means they must not be slain, because God had shewen him mercy in a late victory given him. But after Saul had fallen from God, O the rugged, perverse, cruell disposition of his spirit then, even to Jonathan his son, a gracious, loving, sweet natured son, then Thou sonne of the per∣verse, rebellious woman, he cast a jave lin at him to kill him, then the foure∣score & five Priests in the City of Nob must be all slain in his anger; What was the bottome of all this? It was the breach between God and his owne spirit. Oh take heed of breaches between God and you, for they will put you into a perverse and froward disposition. What doth a man get by the want of this kindness and loving disposition. He troubleth himself, Pro. 11. 17. He that is cruell, of a sharsh disposition, troubleth his own flesh. I appeale to you, do you not lose much of the sweetness of your lives, you that are in a marryed condition? What comfort have you in your lives when there is nothing but snarling at, and crossing one another? you trouble your own house, and your own flesh; whereas if there were loving kindness be∣twixt you, it would sweeten all your comforts, yea all your crosses. The lo∣ving kindnes of a man or a woman is the beauty of a man or woman. Pro∣ 19. 2. The kindnes of a man, is the desire of a man, saith the text there; And of a woman, Pro. 31. 29. among other high comendations of a ver∣tuous woman who had done excellently, this is one, The law of kindnes is in her tongue, kindnes giveth a law to her mouth, many women have no law given to their mouthes, their tongues are lawlesse when they are angred, but a woman that is commended of God, the Text saith, the law of kindnes is in her tongue, the kindnes of her heart doth give a law to her mouth, & that is the honor of a woman. To be of a sweet, kind disposition is an exceeding beauty, it addes a glorious lustre to any man living. Isa. 40. 6. All flesh is 0