before the lives of others, yet the life of a poor neighbour (caeteris paribus,) must be prefer∣red and provided for, before the portions of your own children, and before the supply of their tolle∣rable wants: So that as long as there are poor about you, that are in necessity of food to save their lives, the portions or comliest clothing of your children, must rather be neglected, than the poor be suffered to perish. How else do I love my neighbour as my self, if I make so great a difference be∣tween my self and him?
5. Even the food and rayment, and other necessaries which a Christian useth himself, he must use for God, and not for his carnal self at all; not taking it as his own, which he may use at and for his own pleasure, but as part of his Masters goods, which are all to be used only for his service. As a steward, that when he giveth every servant his part, and taketh his own part, it is not as if it were primarily his own, but as a servant, on the same account with the rest. So when I devote all that I have to God, I am so far from excepting my own part, even my food and rayment, that I do more confidently intend the serving of God with that, than with the rest, because it is more in my power, and there is in it more of my duty. The same I may say of that which is given to our children and other relations.
6. Therefore when more of the service and interest of God, lyeth upon your own, or your childrens using of his talents, than upon other mens, you are bound (for God, and not for your selves,) to re∣tain so much the more to your selves and children. It is a fond conceit that a man is bound to give all to others, rather than to himself or children, when it is most probable, that those others, would do God less service with it, than himself or his children would do: As suppose such a man as Mr. Elliot in New England (that devoteth himself to the Conversion of the Indians) had riches, when some neighbour Ministers were poor, that are engaged in no such work: He that knoweth that God hath given him a heart and an opportunity to do him more service with it than another would do, is not bound to put it out of his own hands into anothers, that is less like to be a faithful im∣prover of it. If you have a Son of your own that is a Preacher of the Gospel, and is more able and serviceable than other Ministers in equal want, no doubt you have then a double obligation to re∣lieve your own Son before another; as he is your Son, and as he is more serviceable to God. If other men are bound to supply your want for the work and interest of the Gospel, you are not bound to give away your own supplyes, to the disabling you from your work, unless when you see a greater work, or the present absolute necessity of others, doth require it.
7. It is imprudent and unsafe, and therefore unlawful, ordinarily, to tye your self unchangably for continuance, to any one particular way of using your estates for God: As to vow that you will give it to Ministers, or to the poor, or to Schools, &c. because the changes may be such which God will make, as shall make that way to be one year necessary, which before was not, and so change your duty. We cannot prescribe to God what way he shall appoint us for the future, to use his ta∣lents in. His Word bids us prefer the greatest good; but which is the greatest, his providence must tell us.
8. He that hath no more than is necessary to the very preservation of his own life and his fami∣lies, is not bound to give to others (unless in some extraordinary case, which calleth him to pre∣fer a greater and more publick good:) And he that hath no more than is needful, to the comfortable support of himself and family, is not bound to relieve those that have no greater wants than himself. And his own necessity is not to be measured meerly by what he hath, but by the use he hath for it: For a Magistrate, or one that is engaged in publick works, may have as much need of many hundreds a year, as a private man of many pounds.
9. Those that have many children to provide for, or poor kindred that nature casteth on them, cannot give so much (proportionably▪) to other poor, as those are bound to do that have few or none: For these are bound to give all, except their personal necessaries, to publick, pious, or chari∣table works, because God calleth not for it any other way.
10. To pamper the flesh, is a sin as well in the Rich, as in the Poor: The Rich therefore are bound not only to give all that the flesh can spare, when its own inordinate desires are satisfied, but to de∣ny themselves, and mortifie the flesh, and be good husbands for God, and studiousness to retrench all unnecessary expences, and to live Laboriously and Thriftily, that they may have the more to do good with. It is a great extenuation of the largest gifts, as to Gods esteem, when they are but the leav∣ings of the flesh, and are given out of mens abundance, and when we offer that to God, that costeth us nothing: As Christ doth purposely determine the case, Luke 21. 1, 2, 3, 4. comparing the Rich mans gifts, with the Widows two mites, he said, Of a truth I say unto you, that this poor Widow hath cast in more than they all: For all these have of their abundance cast in unto the offerings of God; but she of her penury, hath cast in all the living that she had (that is, all the stock she had before-hand, though she had need of it her self.) It is a very considerable thing in our charity, how much mor∣tification and self-denyal is expressed in it, and how much it costeth our own flesh, to give to others. And therefore they that think they are excused from doing good to others, as long as they have any need of it themselves, and will give nothing but what they have no need of (it being not of absolute ne∣cessity to their lives) do offer a sacrifice of no great value in the eyes of God. What then shall we say of them, that will not give even out of their abundance, and that which without any suffering they may spare.
11. The first and principal thing to be done by one, that would give as God would have him, is, to get a truly charitable heart, which containeth all ••••ese parts,
- 1. That we see God in his needy creatures, and •••• his cause or work that needs our help.
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