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CHAP. XXI.
* 1.1SVch mindes therefore are to bee tempered and nourished, and to be animated with delights. And because wee are to vse some re∣medies against Anger, some other against sadnesse, and that these are not only to be cured by different, but contrary meanes. We will alwayes haue a care of that, which is increasing. It shall profit very much say I, to haue our children well instructed in the beginning. But the manner of gouerning is difficult, because wee must indeuour that wee nourish not Anger in them, or dull and dampe their spirits. The matter had need of diligent obseruation.* 1.2 For both that which is to bee extolled and that which is to be depressed is nourished with the like, and such things as resemble doe oftentimes deceiue him, that is most diligent. The mind increaseth by liber∣tie, and is embased by seruitude. Praise the same, and it rowseth it selfe, and fil∣leth vs with great expectation, yet both these two expedients ingender inso∣lence and wrath. So therefore is he to be gouerned betweene both, that some∣times we vse a bridle, sometimes a spur, that his minde may suffer nothing that is base and seruile. Let him neuer haue need to intreat any thing humbly, nei∣ther let it profit him though hee hath so submissiuely intreated. If wee grant him any thing, let it bee rather by alleadging vnto him, that he hath just cause to demaund the same, and that we haue regard vnto his former behauiour, and hope that hee will doe better hereafter, as hee promiseth. In his exercises a∣mongst his companions, let vs neither suffer him to be ouercome, nor to bee an∣grie. Let vs indeuour that he may bee alwayes familiar with those with whom hee is wont to contend, and that in his exercises hee accustome himselfe not to haue a will to hurt,* 1.3 but to ouercome. As oft as he hath gotten the vpper hand, or hath done any thing that is praise worthie, let vs not suffer him to be proud or to boast thereof, for boasting followeth joy, and pride and to much esteeme of himselfe, boasting. We wil giue him some recreation, yet wil we neither suf∣fer him to be slothfull or idle, and aboue all thinges will detaine him from the touch of pleasures. For nothing more inkindleth wrath, then an ouer delicate and daintie education: and therefore the onely childe, to whom wee giue liber∣tie, and these Pupils that are left to their owne pleasures, are ordinarily the most corrupted. The childe that hath had his will in euery thing, whose mother hath ordinarily dried the teares from his eyes, who hath had a master assigned him according to his own•• fancie, will neuer suffer an injurie patiently. Seest thou how euerie greater Fortune is attended with a greater anger? This appea∣reth in Rich men, in Noble men, in Magistrates esp••cially when as whatsoeuer vainenesse and leuitie was in their braines, findeth a fit Winde to carrie it away. Felicitie nourisheth wrath, as soone as the troopes of flatterers are incamped a∣bout proud men.* 1.4 They wil say vnto thee. What shall hee answer thee, thou respectest not thy selfe according to the greatnesse of thy Estate, thou abasest thy selfe ouermuch And other such like sufficient to intangle the wisest heartes, and such as haue b••••ne prudently brought vp from there infancie. Let childhood therefore be farre remou••d from flatterie. Let him h••are nothing but truth, let him learne f••ar••, modestie, obedience to his elders, and dutie, and reuerence. Let him ex∣tort nothing from thee by frowardnesse. That which was denied him when he wept, let it bee giuen him when he is quiet. Let him see his Parents riches, but n••t vse them: Let him be reproued for his euill deeds.